In some ways we are all the same. We all have the same human nature. We share a common humanity. We all have human bodies and human minds, we all have human thoughts and human feelings.

Yet in other ways we are all different and unique. No two people are truly alike. No two people can ever have the same experience of life, the same perspective, the same mind.

Even identical twins are unique in this respect: twin number 1 will always be twin number 1 and will never know what it is actually like to be twin number 2, to experience life and see the world through number 2’s eyes.

Somewhere between these two — our common humanity and our unique individuality — lies personality.

Personality is about our different ways of being human. It’s about how we are all variations on the same themes. It’s about how the human nature we all share manifests in different styles of thinking, feeling and acting.

Personality Defined


Personality can be defined in different ways, depending on whether we focus on the individual or on people in general.

If we focus on people in general, then we can define personality as noticeable psychological differences between individuals. Just as people differ physically in terms of appearance and build, people also differ psychologically in terms of mental and behavioural characteristics.

If we focus on an individual, we can define their personality as Long-term consistency in that person’s way of being — that is, consistency in their particular ways of perceiving, thinking, acting and reacting as a person.

To some extent, individuals generally do tend to operate in a similar way day after day, year after year. We’re not talking about specific actions being repeated again and again, like compulsive hand-washing, but about overall patterns, tendencies, inclinations. Someone who has tended to be quiet and reserved up to now will probably still tend to be quiet and reserved tomorrow.

Only when we have an opportunity to spend a considerable amount of time with a person can we truly discover the variations in the personality, the nuances that make this person unique.

Sometimes people are asked to make a decision about a person without having the opportunity to spend significant personal time. Good examples are elections. I can still remember the energy and the excitement that flowed through the United States when a younger Barak Obama entered the scene and started his campaign to become the next president. He did not focus or turn the focus of the people he wanted to elect him on the fact that he would be the most powerful man in the world (at least militarily). He identified the things that people struggled with and claimed that he would bring change for the better.

A lot of people around the world heard his voice – and his speeches.

Remember: “Yes, we can!”?
People all over the place became emotionally attached to someone who is extremely gifted in speaking to them, using relatively simple language about topics that touched the listeners. Without much opportunity to do anything he even received the Nobel Peace Prize.

Except the people in his family and his closest staff, nobody had the chance to spend any significant time with him and really get to know him and his personality. Almost nobody could tell how much of a regular politician he really is and how much he would be influenced by external forces versus sticking to what he promised his listeners and voters.

It takes a monumental effort to get large numbers of people to accept and willing to look for change. That’s what Barak Obama and his slogan “Yes, we can!” achieved.

Almost nobody has any depth of experience with him. We don’t really know how he really is and what he really thinks. What comes with this kind of shallow experience is a set of expectations. Many people in the United States now are very disappointed, disillusioned, and almost angry. They feel tricked because they had hope that change was coming – literally the words used in many of the speeches – and it never came or only in watered-down, insignificant, and often selective ways.

The majority of people who were so excited about the change they voted for did not get any benefit and often were worse off than they were before – 7 years ago. The voters and listeners of the speeches were willing to forgo the normally required time to get to know someone. They trusted what they heard to predict how the person will act, react, think, and stand for their common interests.

We are often categorized in this way by other people and we do the same for those we want to get to know.
It is this general predictability in individuals’ thought patterns, behaviour patterns and emotional patterns, which defines personality. Or to put it another way:

“Your personality style is your organizing principle. It propels you on your life path. It represents the orderly arrangement of all your attributes, thoughts, feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and coping mechanisms. It is the distinctive pattern of your psychological functioning—the way you think, feel, and behave—that makes you–definitely you.”

We at StilumSmart have researched in-depth about the personality and Styles and put them together in form of a comprehensive assessment which will help you ascertain your style which not only gives you a better insight of who you are, but also as to who you are dealing with in your day-to-day life at work.

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